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The History of Hospitality in The Bible

The story of Abraham and Sarah’s generous hospitality to three visitors who came to them by the oaks of Mamre is told in Genesis 18. Seminomadic life in the country would often bring people from different families into contact with one another, and the character of Canaan as a natural land bridge between Asia and Africa made it a popular trade route. In the absence of a formal industry of hospitality, people living in cities and encampments had a social obligation to welcome strangers. From Old Testament descriptions and other ancient Near Eastern texts, Matthews derived seven codes of conduct defining what counts for good hospitality that maintains the honor of persons, their households, and communities by receiving and offering protection to strangers. Around a settlement was a zone in which the individuals and the town were obliged to show hospitality.

1. In this zone, the villagers were responsible to offer hospitality to strangers.

2. The stranger must be transformed from being a potential threat to becoming an ally by the offer of hospitality.

3. Only the male head of household or a male citizen of a town or village may offer the invitation of hospitality.

4. The invitation may include a time span statement for the period of hospitality, but this can then be extended, if agreeable to both parties, on the renewed invitation of the host.

5. The stranger has the right of refusal, but this could be considered an affront to the honor of the host and could be a cause for immediate hostilities or conflict.

6. Once the invitation is accepted, the roles of the host and the guest are set by the rules of custom. The guest must not ask for anything. The host provides the best he has available, despite what may be modestly offered in the initial offer of hospitality. The guest is expected to reciprocate immediately with news, predictions of good fortune, or expressions of gratitude for what he has been given, and praise of the host’s generosity and honor. The host must not ask personal questions of the guest. These matters can only be volunteered by the guest.

7. The guest remains under the protection of the host until the guest has left the zone of obligation of the host.

This episode provides the background for the New Testament command, “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by doing that some have entertained angels without knowing it” (Heb. 13:2). 

Hospitality and generosity are often underappreciated in modern Christian circles. Yet the Bible pictures the kingdom of heaven as a generous, even extravagant, banquet (Isa. 25:6-9; Matt. 22:2-4). Hospitality fosters good relationships, and Abraham and Sarah’s hospitality provides an early biblical insight to the way relationships and sharing a meal go hand in hand. These strangers reaped a deeper understanding of each other by sharing a meal and an extended encounter. This remains true today. When people break bread together, or enjoy recreation or entertainment, they often grow to understand and appreciate each other better. Better working relationships and more effective communication are often fruits of hospitality. 

In Abraham and Sarah’s time, hospitality was almost always offered in the host’s home. Today, this is not always possible, or even desirable, and the hospitality industry has come into being to facilitate and offer hospitality in a wide variety of ways. If you want to offer hospitality and your home is too small or your cooking skills too limited, you might take someone to a restaurant or hotel and enjoy camaraderie and deepening relationships there. Hospitality workers would assist you in offering hospitality. Moreover, hospitality workers have in their own right the opportunity to refresh people, create good relationships, provide shelter, and serve others much as Jesus did when he made wine (John 2:1-11) and washed feet (John 13:3-11). The hospitality industry accounts for 9 percent of the world gross domestic product and employs 98 million people,[2] including many of the less-skilled and immigrant workers who represent a rapidly growing portion of the Christian church. Even more engage in unpaid hospitality, offering it to others as an act of love, friendship, compassion, and social engagement. The example of Abraham and Sarah shows that this work can be profoundly important as a service to God and humanity. How could we do more to encourage each other to be generous in hospitality, no matter what our professions are?

 

Article Site: Abraham and Sarah’s Hospitality (Genesis 18:1-15)

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The Common Table Experience

A Celebration of Community

Common Table is a place to slow down, share a meal, and feel like part of the family. No pressure, just good food and great conversation. The idea is to offer a relaxed setting where laughter flows as freely as the deep conversation. People come as they are, and leave with a satisfied heart, a full stomach, and perhaps a deeper friendship. Rooted in Acts 2:42— this hospitality model of the early church has been a long-time historical symbol of shared experience and community in order to ignite and deepen faith! We pray that this time together ignites a passion in your guests to not only gather around tables more often with you but that the shared conversations over a meal provokes trust, compassion and vulnerability.

 

We pray for a special grace to be over each and every house that takes hold of this Common Table Experience, and that the Holy Spirit guides and empowers all of your conversation! Enjoy and have fun!

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The Way It May Look

What we are about to lay out is not a formula, but a resource that you can use, or adapt, in bringing people together. First, we encourage you to invite a few people over for a meal. There can be as few of you as five and up to twelve. After twelve, it would be difficult to keep the conversations within the discussion of the table itself. 

 

Have a meal. Food was central to the gathering of the early church. That is still strongly integrated into eastern culture, not just in family, but also in the context of business and even politics. Hospitality has become a lost art that needs to be reclaimed and rekindled within the church! We may not all feel we can lead a church meeting or stand on a street corner sharing the gospel, but we can all share and talk in the context of a meal!

 

During the meal, we would encourage you to move beyond the casual conversation into some fun, intentional discussion. Below you’ll see six suggested questions you can use. Use all or just a few, having everyone go around the table and share. You can also create your own questions  based on a theme you may choose for the night such as marriage, God’s love, parenting, etc...

 

  1. What is your most significant memory and how has that moment impacted your life?

  2. What person has impacted you the most and in what ways?

  3. Name one deeply spiritual significant moment in your life and how it changed you?

  4. What are the top three things you value the most and why?

  5. If there was one piece of advice thats impacted the way you live your life that you would go back and tell your 15 year old self, what would it be?

  6. What do you want to be known by and written on your gravestone when you pass away?

The Value Of Story

At its core, a testimony is a personal account of one's spiritual journey and the transformation work of God within our lives.  It is an intimate narrative of how God's grace has moved mountains, restored brokenness, and brought light into the darkest corners of our life. A testimony is not just a mere recount of our personal experiences and events. It is an outpouring of the heart, a genuine confession of God's faithfulness, and a demonstration of His awesome power and love. When we share our testimonies, we not only reflect God's work in our lives but also become vessels of encouragement and inspiration for others. We would suggest, within the context of your night, during The Common Table Experience, to incorporate your testimony into the conversation. It can be any story you have that shows an encounter with the living God! 

This could result in further questions or discussion. This could lead to other people sharing their own story. This could lead to praying for someone or even everyone. The key is to be intentional, and do not worry if it is short and you simply planted seeds. 

 

Your testimony can be just three minutes. Unless you feel you have a real opportunity, that is what we would suggest. There are three elements to you sharing a personal testimony:

 

  1. What was the crisis point or challenge you were facing?

  2. How did God meet you?

  3. How is your life different today because of that Divine Encounter?

 

If you include each of these three in a clear manner, people will get a context, the revelation and transformation you received from God, and a current update of the fruit from the encounter. Three minutes. That’s all it takes to plant a seed.

The Invitation Is All It May Take

This may be a “one-off” event that plants seeds or can turn into something more. You can invite a different group the next time, or you can have a follow-up meal with the same group, which eventually may result in a Bible study in the future!

 

We have created a resource called The Invitation, relating to the topic of discipleship and being a disciple. It is a short book that can be read individually, in one-on-one discipleship, or in a small group. If each person were to read a chapter during the week before gathering (7 chapters in all), there are a list of discussion questions and ministry opportunities at the end of each chapter that you can do after the meal.)

 

There are numerous other studies out there that can be used! This may just spark a whole new stream of your own creative ideas and opportunities to connect with people at a heart level in your local sphere of influence. The key is to keep sharing meals and keep meeting as the Lord leads you in this journey of discovering what it means to gather at the Common Table! 

Lastly, James and I would love to hear about your experiences with the Common Table idea! Please contact us and let us know how you did, and what ideas you implemented! We can’t wait to hear all the stories! 

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